Saturday, October 21, 2017

October Leads to Leaves

I love this poem.

All my life I have resented Autumn.  I hate to leave behind the warm summer days and glorious sun beating hot on my face. As I grew older I began to wear a hat to protect my head from the heat, and a bandanna on my forehead to catch the sweat.

I still hate to leave summer behind.  But I must confess that I don't hate Autumn so much anymore. The days will grow cooler next week. (We are still above normal temps.)  "they" even say we may see a flurry or two, though it won't stick.  Just little bits of snow blowing in the wind.

I have already started to focus on what stitching will occupy my time when it's too cold to be outside.  Today will be the last warm day for a while and I have one more project to do outside, then I'm done with it.  I'm not even going to blow leaves this year.  Terry plans to mow them out to the street letting the John Deere create a long pile along the road for the leaf picker uppers to collect and cart them off.

I hesitated to add the following paragraph.  It is really my inner thoughts on how to keep my piece of mind.  Forever I have been the caregiver.  I continue that roll with Terry.  For all else...I am free.
I turned 66 the other day.  Somehow my mind did an instant adjustment:
Eliminate people and things that cause stress instead of reducing it.
Focus on what I want to do, that does not include raking.
Snow will be plowed away...no shoveling here ANYMORE except a path to my bird feeders.
Catch up on TV watching that I have been avoiding.
Continue to do what I can to resist the direction this country is taking.
Stitch more...blog more.
Speak more...bite my tongue where that used to be a hard thing to do.

Most of my blog friends don't talk about their real inner thoughts.  Keep the conversation light.  No controversy.  Perhaps this place is our escape.  I am in the Autumn of my life.  I embrace it and hope Winter is a long way off.

25 comments:

Nicole Beadwright Campanella said...

First Happy Birthday. We parallel so much. I too have been a caregiver and continue this with Mike for the last 27 years. It has all been on me. I am tired. LOL 66 is coming on me faster than I like. I am trying to do things I want to do and keeping myself happy. I really dislike fall/winter. I guess because we get so little summer here. It has turned cold, stormy, dark and icky here. I dream of hot sunny days.

Julierose said...

I am in life's Autumn, too, Carol-- (and all too quickly moving to Winter at 74)!!
Happy (belated) birthday. ;))) No more of those tasks for us either...snow is even enjoyable when you don't have to shovel it (lol). And........
I am no longer making BIG quilts; I can no longer manage to pull them through my domestic machine...so am pausing to see what I (can) and want to make...I want to get back to my beading. I haven't done any since I made my Mom her pretty mandala picture...now that she is gone, I look at it and think I have to make more beaded objects...since energy is at a premium around here, I will be choosing my projects thoughtfully....
hugs and hope you will share your indoor projects coming up...Julierose

maureenlthompson said...

Happy Birthday and congratulations. I turned 69 this year and instead of feeling down about it I am truly grateful that I have made it this far so congratulations to you too and long may your winter be in arriving. meanwhile, enjoy your Autumn. As you know I too am a caregiver but rather that then a widow even if the going is tough sometimes. Happy stitching in the coming colder months!

Robbie said...

Interesting post....I love the fall...inner thoughts are for my mind only....which is ok....fall is actually my favorite time of the year...with the exception it means we leave our home for four months. I miss my family and my home but it's the happiest time for my husband...so we go each year...this is our 14th year...seems like yesterday! Enjoy your fall/winter!

Magpie's Mumblings said...

Happy belated birth day wishes! Good for you for making the decision to live your life the way you want to. Like you, I have rather a dislike for fall because I know what it heralds. I guess it's not fair to take our feelings about the dreaded winter out on poor fall!!

Kit said...

Happy Birthday! I loved your post. You are very wise. You have to do all you can to keep yourself healthy and happy. I also have changed my way of thinking as I have gotten into my 60's. I watch and read less news, I take more time for what I want to do, I blog, I watch TV and
read whenever I want. You should too! :) Kit

Cathy said...

Happy Belated Birthday, Carol! At our ages (I know we’re close), we deserve to live the lives we want. It’s nice to be settled, loved, financially secure and healthy. I love being able to do what I want, when I want to. And more often I’m willing to pay people to do things I don’t want to do, such as mowing and heavy cleaning. Life is good in these autumn years. And this year, for the first time in memory, I am not sad to leave summer behind.

Pamela said...

Happy Birthday! There comes a time when we have to do more for ourselves. I look forward to seeing what you choose to work on this fall and winter.

Barbara said...

Never hesitate to share your inner thoughts. We all have them, and they are worthy of sharing. I have never been a caretaker except for when raising 4 children. But that is a different kind of caretaking than when one is responsible for an adult loved one. There comes a time, though, when that is no longer as easy as in the past. Human bodies wear out, and those of caretakers perhaps even faster than others. To be any good to others, we have to take care of ourselves. Snow will melt, leaves will blow away, our country will survive (I pray), and we will be stronger for sometimes giving priority to what brings us peace. Things like stitching are meditative. Stitch away!

Barbara said...

Julierose, I MUST send you an email! I could have written every word of your comment, right down to our age in common. We must be related! Lol.

jenclair said...

Happy Birthday, Carol! I will be turning 69 in a couple of weeks, and I think I was 66 when I, too, began making some adjustments. Some things were conscious decisions, but other things seemed to be a matter of redirecting interests. :) My feelings about Autumn are quite different--I am always happy to exchange the heat and humidity of Louisiana summers for more pleasant weather.

Roberta Warshaw said...

Happy birthday Carole! And you thought you were older than me.....nope. I turn 68 in February. I hope my care giving will soon be over. My husband is pretty independent as far as that goes. I am lucky that way. But of course there is that other person....lol. Hopefully he will figure things out sooner rather than later and I will be free. Free I tell ya!
I loathe autumn because I hate winter so very much and I know that is is coming any minute now. Soon if all goes according to plan I won't have to deal with snow and its ilk.....

kathyinozarks said...

Happy Birthday Carol, My birthday is tomorrow so we are both October girls and I am a couple years older
I love autumn always have-I do miss those gorgeous deep blue skies of October that you have up there-not so much normally here in Missouri. we are finally turning into fall weather here too-I don't miss the hot summers at all and I now look forward to cold winters just so I can stay indoors and snuggle up with a book or my crafts.
I started to stop making political comments especially here on my blog-I have decided no one wants to hear it and if my views differ with theirs than many drop me instead of discussing. I had so many friends especially on facebook that dropped me-friends from 15 years ago when I first started being on the internet just because they have different political views. I don't mind a healthy discussion on topics but too many are so blind and want their way all the time--very sad times we are living in.
I just finished reading two excellent books on Alexander Hamilton-and it was the same way back then-so many lies and more lies to deceive the public and to be hurtful-so I guess what we are going through now as a nation is nothing new I am just more aware of it all now.
I think that is so neat that your city picks up leaves for their residents-and your city has such gorgeous old and large trees too-love that-but not that train noise lol I hardly slept when I was there well I have written too much-hugs

kathyinozarks said...

excellent Barbara

Studio Maywyn said...

Happy Birthday!
Wise words

Jan said...

Happy Birthday! Glad you feel comfortable speaking your mind, you should. This is your space! At our age we have earned the right to please our selves.

Janine @ Rainbow Hare said...

I hope you had a lovely birthday, Carol :) Doing things that will preserve you peace of mind is a wonderful present to gift yourself and I like your inner thoughts list. There are some inner thoughts that I purposefully don't mention on my blog. For example, I find some quilters very forcefully religious and I either avoid their blogs or comment/discuss sewing/knitting because I feel it's better to focus on what we have in common. I also deleted one blog post when my mother got the internet because, although I had genuinely expressed my feelings about something and been honest about the facts, I didn't want to upset her or fall out with her. A lot of people had commented on that post, though, and told me of similar experiences so I'm sure you are right that sharing less 'light' things is valuable to ourselves and others. Apart from that I just never seem to have time. In my head I 'write' long, long blog posts about all sorts of things (whilst working or doing other things) but when I have spare time I usually spend as much time as I can making things and then I end up just writing half a dozen quick sentences in a post about it. I should make more effort. I think our blogs would all be more interesting if our posts were more thoughtful :)

robin michelle said...

Autumn has always been my favorite time of year. It's especially pretty in Sacramento because there are so many trees changing colors and losing leaves. I like your thoughts - particularly about eliminating stress causers.

Debra said...

No-I think blogs should be places to vent sometimes. I hate those sappy blog etiquette books that say to keep it 'nice.' I do love fall, but I also have a bit of nervousness about winter coming-mostly because my husband has to drive to work. At least he has a 4 wheel drive. the roads here can be awful.
Can't wait to see what you're stitching-and I love your stress busters!!!

Jocelyn Thurston said...

Hi Carol, just finished reading this post and I think you can tell there is an interest in people being honest about their feelings. Recently when I had my sad time (around when I turned 66, btw) I hesitated to talk about it on my blog but then I thought the heck with it. This is me too. I figure if someone doesn't want to read it they can proceed to the next blog of the millions out there.
I too am in a little of a similar situation with hubby 12 years older and health matters changing things up...
But yes, do try to lessen the stress and strains of the chores and take the time to fill your hours with what you enjoy. We are in autumn and we need to get on with the living.

Susan said...

Happy birthday, a little late, Carol. My computer was broken, but you already know that from reading my blog. I saved this notification for when I could read a few blogs. I try to be me on my blog. I don't post most of the problems and trials, as everyone else has their own. But I do allude to them now and then. just so everyone knows I don't live a life that's easier than theirs. LOL I never post politics because I don't like controversy, and it's been very controversial the last ten or twelve years - most of my life, really, but worse. I do post religion, which isn't as controversial as politics these days. LOL. I think it's your blog, and you can post whatever you want. People who disagree are more likely not to read it than to argue about it.

Susan said...

Amen. After close to 8 years as a widow, I can say you have the right attitude.

I am said...

Happy birthday Carol,i love your deep thinking,we are coming into Spring here and i cant wait to see sunny days,take care my friend xx

Sandra said...

I hope you had a Happy Birthday! I enjoy the colors that Autumn brings; but the time is all too short and then the leaves are gone and we are left with empty trees and a lot of dreary brown. The white snow adds a sparkle when it is fresh and new; but also creates a lot of work to shovel the driveways and walkways. I guess there is good and bad in every season. Better to find what we like best about it and try and be happy. I am happy to hear that crafting brings you happiness. I love to spend my time with a needle in my hand and a project to work on. And friendly bloggers make the days even better. Thank you for visiting with me today. I will stay in touch and enjoy seeing what you are working on. Have a great day.

Rose said...

I need to pin baste a quilt, and to do that I need to watch what I eat and make sure I have my reflux under control...cause when I pin baste, I do it on the floor and the way I do it, I really can have trouble with reflux. I wish I had some other way where my but wasn't higher than my head!