Thursday, August 17, 2017

Bridal Shower "EVENT"

What do you think about this?

When my brother-in-law's grandchildren and step grandchildren have gotten married, they have hand carried shower and wedding and graduation invitations to us.  I find that to be nice.  Not only do we get the invitation, but we get to have a nice visit with them.

But I guess there is a new trend happening with today's youth.  About two weeks ago I received a message on FB messenger from my niece Crystal. (She is BIL Jerry's daughter)  It was a picture of a digital wedding invitation for HER niece. (BIL Larry's step granddaughter).  This gets complicated.   Anyway, the caption of the Messenger Message was an RSVP.  the message was send to everyone in the family.  The method of the delivery did not determine if we would go or not go.  But I did think that if this was their way of inviting people to an informal wedding, then surely we should have received an individual "message" invite.

The other day when I opened my Facebook page I had a notification that I was invited to an "EVENT".  I get a lot of these for civic events etc.  THIS one invited me to the wedding shower for the couple I just wrote about.  I mentioned it to my grandson's girlfriend and she said this is pretty common now.  I find this entire situation very impersonal.

Tell me what you think?  Have you ever received invitations via social media? Are you wondering if etiquette is becoming passe?

If you need an AWWWW moment, I leave you with this picture and wondering just WHO this guy IS.

xx, Carol

23 comments:

  1. Oy. We are too old for all this! So much is different now. I think we are all victims of too much social media. What to do about it? Go with the flow. Too many other things to worry about.

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  2. Hi Carol and your pic is so cute.
    I agree with you all the way about the invitation my friend,it losses all personal contact,I don't think it is a good thing xx

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  3. FB invitations do seem to be all the rage these days. While I understand it is just the times, it saddens me that so much of our "Emily Post" ways have fallen by the wayside. My children, aged 22 & 26, still write thank you notes for gifts but have told me that no one else does that these days. Now that, to me, is just rude!

    Cute pup, by the way :)

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  4. Times are changing Carol....... by the time we leave this world we may not even recognize this world... Hugs! deb

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  5. it's a changing world my friend. I am not too excited about it either lol. But hey, if it wasn't then I wouldn't be in touch with all my blogging friends like you so there are some good things about it. Sweet puppy, a new addition to your household or one of your family's?

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  6. Awww is right! What a sweetie!! Love it!
    I'm not sure how I feel about FB in general, even though I use it once in a while. I like blogging much better because I don't have to see stuff that: 1)makes me mad, 2)disgusts me, or 3)see ads that are just plain annoying and stupid or disgusting or make me mad!
    I guess maybe etiquette is changing with the times. I don't like it. I'll be one of those ornery old ladies that likes the old way of doing things!!!

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  7. Hmmm. I haven't heard of this practice. Although I don't get hand-delivery, invitations still arrive in the mail box. I can see that this might be the first wave of a future tradition (certainly would save money), but it is impersonal, and I think I would be a little resentful about the lack of effort. Nevertheless, I won't be surprised when my first digital invitation arrives. Eventually, attendance may be by Skype.

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  8. Well, I think it's just like thank you cards, a note to a friend, etc., we've become lax and the old ways are really becoming the old ways! I still try to write hand written thank you notes and love getting them in return. Not sure how I feel about a wedding or shower invite! Perhaps, the couple can't afford all that the wedding costs...hope you at least get a hand written thank you for the gift!
    AND WHO IS THAT ADORABLE LITTLE ONE!!!! So cute!

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  9. Yes, I have received several invitations to events...I don't mind them. I may be the odd person out, but I almost prefer them. Though I can see why you would prefer the other if you get a hand delivered and visit the other way. LOL

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  10. I don't have a facebook account, but I hear more and more about this type of "invitation". Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I don't approve of invitations of this kind for big events like weddings. Pot luck dinners, community events, fine, but I think a wedding invitations requires something more personal. Just my humble opinion.

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  11. I'm with you Carol. I long for the days of a personal touch. But alas, I don't think they will return unless the Internet goes away. That's not likely to happen anytime soon, so I just pine away for the days when a letter or invitation could be held in my hand. I'm sure that makes me look old to the younger generation.

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  12. I'm very in favour of individual invitations - delivered by hand or conventional post (snail mail) for people far away - for things like weddings or special occasion parties and phoning for more informal meeting ups. I was genuinely shocked recently to hear that my mother had cancelled an informal but specifically arranged visit to my daughter on fb! So was my daughter. We both would have expected her to phone and I thought it was actually quite rude, although I'm sure my mother's thinking was only that this is the way things are done nowadays. I've been telling my children off for texting things that I think require spoken or face to face interaction for years and now my mother is doing it!!! I just despair! She also posts lol everywhere and insists it means 'lots of love'. Perhaps as an attempt at an etiquette revival, I'll start hand writing and posting little notes to everyone...Ordinarily I might be tempted to think "If you can't beat them join them." But I recently saw a quote I liked which said: "Only dead fish go with the flow" :D I love your little dog picture, btw, adorable :)

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  13. It seems so.......impersonal. Especially for a family member. I agree family at least should get proper invitations.
    Who's te adorable boy? How sweet they are when puppies.
    He reminds me of my daughters Nala when she was little, she's now 18 months of 70lb bouncing running german shepherd.woof.

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  14. Anyone who knows me well enough to send an invitation of any kind, and expect me to show up will not send it on facebook.
    My grandson just graduated from male and was class valedictorian, He did not send any out kind. I would have missed it. But he did come over and invite me. Our church pastor was sending out messages on face book,Time changes etc. When we did not show up a few times we started getting phone calls. I totally agree with you, very impersonal.
    Good to see you back, hope all is going well.

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  15. I forgot, is the pup a Rottie or Dobbie, the legs look a little long for a Rottie. But there are so many awkward stages I can't tell for sure. Is he or she your's? Pretty pup.

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  16. This trend in issuing invitations via FB messenger happens here too Carol. Then, because some of the family aren't on FB, the young person usually puts in this general invitation a message to me, saying can you tell Aunty So and So etc about this? What the...? How rude? But I have to say that except for one occasion we haven't received wedding invitations this way...yet! 😕 But my biggest problem with the modern trends is that we rarely receive thank yous these days for wedding, engagement, baby shower etc gifts...that is really rude!!

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  17. I not only consider it lacking it etiquette, I think it's downright rude. If it were my own daughter and that's how she sent an invitation, I wouldn't go, nor would I reply, nor would I send a gift. There are some things social media can handle, but good manners is not one of them.

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  18. Hi Carol, Well personally I think it is lazy and tacky. If you are having a shower or wedding send a real invitation. But if a person wants to invite me to lunch, then sure use FB. Hope you have a great week! :) Kit

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  19. Love your puppy. As for FB or any other social media where people think it is how to invite someone to ANYTHING is not only lacking in etiquette and very rude, it is just plain lazy. Not to mention that the personal aspect is lost to these kids. My niece did the same thing for her birthday. In reality she just wanted gifts. We have lost more than a generation of people to the respect of courtesy and manners.

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  20. My question is what happens if you aren't on social media - do you not get invited to family functions such as this? A further question arises - wonder how they'd react if you were to send them a virtual gift instead of the 'real' thing. And don't get me started on the lack of thank you notes!!!

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  21. This practice disgusts me. I agree with what Susan wrote just before me. The lack of manners has reached epidemic proportions, and not just in cyberspace.

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  22. Everything has seemed to turn upside down since cyberspace took over. It seems no one wants to take time to hand write any thing any longer. That is the cutest puppy picture ever!

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  23. Carol-the black bird in my photo is a grackle. Isn't he or she cute?

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