Thursday, May 5, 2016
Today is Corey's 21st Birthday. This is a great pic of him with his mom.
Corey has lived with us most of his life, but has also lived with his mom at various times. It may be a weird situation, but it works. Terry and I have been his parents for the most part. His mom has been his friend. The one he can tell things to that he would never talk to us about. The one he could go to over the years for advice about things that grandparents would never understand.
I recently realized what "cutting the apron strings REALLY means". It brought forth a lot of feelings I never had with his mom. It's not a bad thing! There is a certain sense of responsibility that I no long feel. I have no need to wake up at 4 AM to be sure he is up for work. He does not want me to pack his lunch and guess what !?! He can do that very well his self. From going to the store to buy what he wants...to putting it in a bag each morning. I still do his laundry if I think of it and want to, but I no longer feel like I SHOULD do it. He works 12 hours a day so we don't expect him to do anything around the house, but he will if asked or if he notices he can help in some way. A couple of months ago he was going to move into an apartment. Maybe he just wanted to see if he would be approved, I'm not sure. Anyway, he told us he would stay here for a while. Maybe the prospect of paying off his car may have more appeal. He's 21 and learning the answers...with new questions popping up all the time.